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Military boarding schools can take the bully out of the bully and replace it with the self-confidence that cruel behavior typically indicates is lacking. A bully 9 times out of 10 has very low self-esteem which supports a defensive stance to the world. A bully is always sure that every word is a criticism or that they are being treated unfairly.

Immaturity is another counterpart to the bully disposition. Because they are unable to tolerate what is perceived as rejection or criticism, the first response of a bully is to lash out as opposed to think an incident through to determine if any ill will was actually intended.

Bullying can be divided into three categories, according to the “experts”:

• Visual bullying (Something you see). Examples: gestures or mimicking, faces, pictures, graffiti or notes; and cyber bullying (utilizing myspace, email, IM or other internet means to harass).
• Verbal bullying (Something you hear or is said). This includes name-calling, cruel “jokes”, spreading rumors or gossip, verbal threats, excluding, and offensive sounds.
• Physical bullying (something that is done to your body). Examples: throwing things, poking, touching, grabbing or pushing, blocking someone’s way, hitting or punching, intimidating.

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Military boarding schools and various troubled teen boarding schools and boot camps are well known for the positive results that their regimen of discipline produces in a teenager. From false bravado, the bully can transition into self-confidence and emotional maturity. They can go from seeing the world as hostile and full of enemies to a world that offers opportunity and friendships.